Sitting on the Fence

Have you ever had to make a decision and really felt undecided so took the easy way out and sat on the fence – Not for the decision and also not against the decision? Rather  “I will wait and see what happens “ or “whatever” attitude.

For many, Indecisiveness is a daily occurrence and can result in many lost opportunities, feeling stuck and often frustration at not moving forward in your life or business.

So why are we indecisive and how can we overcome this?

Recently, driving along in my car and listening to an audio by Anthony Robbins he discussed a 5 step process of problem solving that is simple and easy to apply in every day situations.

I started thinking of the moments where I was faced with a decision, big or small and a few incidents of my indecisiveness flashed through my mind. One event specifically stood out and funnily enough it was not a huge big deal or terribly important decision that needed to be made.

However, I avoided making the decision and just left it to be and took the road of “ ok, lets see what happens. “

In effect not making a decision is still making a decision – I simply decided not to make a decision.

So why did I do that? I am sure that there have been moments in your life or business that you have been faced with a decision and somehow you didn’t make it. Now, I know that I am not alone in this and neither are you.

I do think though, that avoidance to making a decision is something we should be aware of.

There are various reasons for sitting on the fence, It could be that making a decision and getting it WRONG scares you, or It could be that the decision to be made really is not that important to you and you decide to just let it slide and whatever happens, happens. It could be that you are fearful of what others might say of you, so you avoid it or it could simply be that someone else close to you normally makes the decisions and you have never really taken the opportunity to build your decision making muscle.

Whatever the reason we all do this sometime. Today I’d like to share with you Tony’s 1^st 4 steps to solving a problem, which can easily be applied to making a decision – This is also know as the NLP success principles.

And can be summarised as follows:

1.)  Always know your outcome – be clear on what you want.

2.)  Take Action – Yes, make that decision – good or bad, make it!

3.)  Increase your sensory acuity – big words and what does this mean? All it means is to become aware of whether what you have decided is working or not?

4.) Improve your behavioral flexibility – Tweak, change and try something else until it does work. The person who is able to be most flexible is terms of their behavior is the person who controls the situation.

So go on – No more fence sitting. Whatever decision needs to be made, good or bad, big or small – apply these 4 principles above and achieve the outcome you desire.

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