All the best fairytales have a healthy dose of mess.

 

Broken hearts. Broken fortunes. Times when you feel close to giving up. Times when everything seems lost. Out of reach…

My story is no different. Like so many others, even during those times when things were at their hardest—I don’t know how, but I battled through. I learnt. Grew.

There are defining moments in all of our lives. And there was a moment for me when I knew there was something more for me professionally. Something more ‘me’ that would change the way I felt about my life, my work and the contribution I was making to the world.

People call it a mid-life crisis—this waking up and longing for more. Some call it a breakdown.

I call it a breakthrough.

Sometimes it’s when things are at their worst that we find ourselves showing up in the world at our very best. In 2009, I lived in South Africa—a country woven inextricably into my heart—with my husband and four children. But the country we adored, the country where we had flourished and built our lives and careers and family, had become terribly unsafe for us.

To protect our children and offer them a secure and peaceful upbringing, we had to tear ourselves away…

We left everything behind, including my senior corporate career and my husband’s business and we moved to Australia—a country we’d never even visited. We arrived with just $3000 in our pockets and a fervent hope that we were making the right decision.

Was it scary? Yes!

And despite deep homesickness for South Africa, something about the move was exhilarating, too…

At that most raw and open point, I knew.

I knew that something was about to change in this next chapter in my life. But I wasn’t yet clear on what. Or how…

So it was then, in our newly adopted homeland, knowing nobody and feeling quite ‘dislocated’, that I began the important process of reinvention.

I felt adrift, and needed answers.

Qs

 

  • Who was I?
  • Where did I fit in?
  • What was my purpose?
  • How could I make a difference, and leave a legacy?

 

I had my children, and I loved being a mum, but I needed more than lunch-boxes and school drop-offs to feel fulfilled.

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Finding myself, and finding my business, wasn’t as easy as I imagined

It took a long time to uncover that entrepreneurial tri-fecta: something I’m good at, which I love, and which would provide a healthy income.

But when I did discover my ‘thing’—which for me was coaching and for others can be limitless different services or offerings—all the preparation and studying and wondering if I was heading in the right direction made my newfound clarity seem that much sweeter! I was finally on the right track! I’d discovered ‘what I want to be when I grow up!’

Was clarity enough, though?

Despite a well-spring of passion, and despite the tens of thousands of dollars I’d invested in my learning and training, I found myself failing. I had formal coaching qualifications, a fledgling business, a very limited budget and, before long, a depleted bank account and zero clients!

How could this be happening? I was working so hard, but I was spinning my wheels, and I felt gutted! Disillusioned. Powerless. A failure.

My harsh inner critic was having a field day: “Yet again, you’re not good enough! Why don’t you give up? Get a job!”

That would have been easy! I was so frustrated. I felt I wasn’t taking action fast enough. Or maybe I was taking the wrong actions…

Either way, I wasn’t moving forward. I was soaking up vast amounts of information but not seeing the benefit. All the while, I was living in a state of ‘perpetual potential’, hoping things would turn around—knowing they needed to, but not knowing what the missing piece was that would fix this.

As it turned out, the problem was simple and powerful.

Despite everything I’d learned ‘on paper’, I still didn’t have true clarity about who I was and what I had to offer. I hadn’t recognised my own value—hadn’t owned it and stepped into it, courageously and with certainty.

I hadn’t found my voice in the world.

Once I uncovered that, and learned to communicate what I had to offer with the people who needed it most—I knew I’d be paid what I was worth. And if I was paid what I was worth, I’d be in business. Really in business—rather than continuing to operate an expensive hobby.

Finally it clicked. With my new, clear direction, I went back through everything I’d learned and put into place all the training. I made use of every cent of the thousands of dollars that I’d spent on my education. On programs. Tools. Software. Mentors……

I honed and tweaked and polished everything that I’d learnt. EVERYTHING.

And of course everything changed.

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You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. - Wayne Gretzky

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GayeWhen we first starting working together that I wanted to attract more clients online so that I could free up more of my time and increase sales while doing so. Well, its happened and it feels like a totally different life; successful, organised and busy rather than always chasing my tail.

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What lights me up now is helping entrepreneurs globally realise their full potential without having to wade through all of the uncertainty and frustration that I experienced. I love seeing them move through the process I went through—faster and more effortlessly—and emerge from it understanding their true value.

I love it when they understand how to communicate that value… How to attract more clients, more consistently. How to take action and get paid what they’re worth, as I am now, so they can make a big impact in their client’s lives, and in their own.

This is something so many of us struggle with, and it doesn’t have to be as hard as we often make it…

Over the mountain you see in front of you, there’s a life and business that I know you’re going to love.
I’m here to help you cross that mountain.

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MarkI simply don’t want to think of what life might have been now if the change that Brenda helped me bring about was not realised.

Mark Watson

WANT TO KNOW MORE? 

 

  • I was born in small town called Tzaneen in South Africa and immigrated with my family to Australia ( the land down under in ) in 2009  
  • I’m a proud mum of four beautiful children, a great achievement for some one who never wanted children. I am married to my gorgeous Greek hubby and soulmate who supports my crazy ideas and ensures that my tea cup is constantly replenished. #Bliss.
  • I did my first headstand this year. (Yip, I’d just turned 47)  I’d never done a headstand, not even as a child. I can now successfully check it off my list. 
  • I gave up drinking coffee 3 years ago, offer me a pomegranate flavoured green tea any day.  
  • I thought I’d never find my purpose. It was hidden in a place I never thought to look. You’d be surprised to know that it’s right under your very nose, closer than you think and simpler than you may have believed. 
  • I’m a hand raising, spirit filled believer with an insatiable appetite for Jesus. He is the CEO of my life and business. Without him I can do nothing. I’ve learned to depend on the still small voice that guides me daily as I continue to build my faith based business. He is my competitive edge.  
  • My favourite meal is one that takes less than 20 minutes to cook. I’m a horrible cook and you’ll be lucky if you come for a meal to have something I haven’t burnt. 

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. - Nelson Mandela

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